The Angry Man: another letter to my daughters and my women students
Today I read several warnings against the angry person in Proverb 29. There are frequent reminders of the wickedness of an angry person (vs 2). There is warning of the angry person's tendency toward stirring things up (22). The angry person will frequently and/or suddenly lose his temper like a fool (11) instead of having the life skill (wisdom) of holding back. He will always be quick and hasty to speak instead of thinking things out before he opens his mouth (20). The primary issue does come down to pride, and it will always bring the man (and anyone connected to him) lower and lower down (23). There is less as less humility in the angry man's life because he refuses to hear and listen to the helpful reproof given to them from people they trust to speak into their life (1,9,15). While only by God's grace, I find less of these things wrecking my heart, and I only say that with a knock on wood, I could not help but think of you as I read today. I could not help but fast forward to the days you begin dating and considering marriage.
My prayer for you today, and my hope for you, and my statement to you today is:
I can all but beg you to stay away from a man (a boy) who gets angry often OR suddenly. This is a HEART issue (Matthew 5:21-22), and he will not change.
God's grace is miraculous and can change the heart, but you cannot. The man who is angry and does not listen to the challenge of wiser people is NEVER GOING TO CHANGE if you just hold on to the benefit of a doubt and you will continually be brought into that pride, anger, and foolishness as you keep yourself around.
Understand what I am saying; they CAN change, but they WILL not change. Understand the difference between these two. If they. CAN change, leave them be until they do. Otherwise, you are caught in the storm, and it will paIn me greatly to walk with you there.
Quick open challenge to boys, guys, and men
Every man, single, dating or married is called to be the cover for women around them. For the fact is that we are called to protect women. This is not to say that women are weak and all that crap. Men are still called to be a cover for their sisters in Christ. We are called to be honorable and protecting of their spirituality, their conditions of heart and emotions. We are called to stand for them and be there for them as men willing to fight for our sisters' heart, spirit, body and soul. No woman or girl is just a woman or girl. Each woman is still a member of the body of Christ, and no matter what relation that woman...any woman has to you; be it your mother, your sister, your girlfriend, your friend, or even the girl whose name you don't even know. No matter what role any woman plays in your life, she is still your responsibility. This is not a matter of ruling over, but a matter of honor and protecting. As a man, I am called to cover, protect, and honor the heart of each woman. To fight for and protect each woman's condition of heart, mind, spirit, and body. Why do men wait until they're in a relationship to start realizing this stuff? Why have I sought so hard to be a 'man of God' my entire life and failed to realize I am not just called to respect and honor the girl I was interested in at the time? No! If I am a true man of God, I am called to honor, protect and cover EVERY woman. No woman is just a woman. Each woman is my responsibility. I am my sister's keeper!