Quick letter to my male students
It takes courage to stand out as a man in a culture of guys. But why would you want to do that? How would you do that? How to move from simply finishing to actually winning. Reality check: Women have given up on 'guys'. That should bother you deeply. They are searching for men to be men, but have absolutely no interest in guys who want to stay guys.
DISCIPLINE: Men understand that risk is essential for victory. On the battle front you're thankful for hellish bootcamp. Women are looking for men who are prepared to BE men (goodnews: men will stick out in a guy culture).
SERVICE: Guys live for themselves. Our culture of 'guys' fights against the entire purpose for creation. Guys are selfish and have no purpose to shoot for in life. At some point, you have to ask yourself if YOU would ever want to date someone who is all about themselves (why would you become someone YOU don't even desire?)
Men live for others. Your purpose is much deeper when living for others. Men WANT to make an impact, and impact only happens outside of self. A man is not focused on what HE gets out of a relationship but on what THE RELATIONSHIP gets out of him. 
Being 'one of the guys' is not being a man. If iron sharpens iron, a guy does not sharpen a man. (Prov.27:17)
You are not intended to do this alone; so quit trying to. (Hebrews 10:24-25). Failure is less likely when other men sharpen you.