When I tell my students not to listen to their parents

As a college pastor, there are a few very common conversations I have always had with several students like it was the first time.

One of those conversations walks students through following God’s intent for their lives to the chagrin and often in the face of their parents’ intent for them.

Acts 21:10-14 shows Paul being clear of God’s intent for his life in the face of people who love him. They are people who deeply care for Paul, and he knows that is the reason it breaks his heart so much when he sees their advice and strong intent going against what he KNOWS God has told him to do.

This stress of the tension between disappointing those who care for you in order to follow God’s intent for you is one I hear all the time.

There has to be a challenge here for all of us to answer God’s call while realizing it is not what our loved ones will aways want for us.

Quick letter to my female students

Have you been frustrated with the no good men pursuing you? Here is a thought for you today.

[good] Men do not fight for anything of no value. Are you worth fighting for?

Now of course, I assure you that you ARE worth fighting for. The question is not as if you were not possibly worthy, but whether or not you act like you are worthy. Do you act like you are valuable enough to be fought for and pursued? Further, do you believe you are valuable?

If you give yourself out to whatever and whomever, you are not believing you are worthy or valuable enough to be really fought for and pursued. You give yourself to lesser boys and ‘guys’ who will never fight and are looking for easy pleasure. You will not be saved and taken care of if you are not valuable. You will only be used and thrown away.

But that is the game of boys and guys!

Men will fight for and pursue value and worth. You ARE valuable and worthy, BUT act like it and believe it.

* Quick letter to my male students

Benediction for my Graduates!

May God bless you with discomfort at easy answers
half truths, and superficial relationships,
so that you may live deep within your heart.

May God bless you with anger at injustice,
oppression, and exploitation of people,
so that you may work for justice, freedom, and peace.

May God bless you with tears to shed for those
who suffer from pain, rejection, starvation, and war,
so that you may reach out your hand to comfort them
and turn their pain into joy.

And may God bless you with enough foolishness
to believe that you can make a difference in this world,
so that you can do what others claim cannot be done.

*ancient franciscan benediction

My Students’ Blogs You Should Read

A cluster of my students keep blogs where they share various reflections and expressions. The old adage goes that teachers often learn more from their students. This is certainly the case for me. More often than not, I feel like I’m just riding in their wake.

You should check out the blogs of my students      and    learn something.

* these are listed in order of post frequency

SARAH S
creative.inspiring.inquisitory

 

LORI
infectious.creative.fragrant

 

SARAH K
ASL.deliberate.picturesque

 

 

GENEVIEVE
haunting.overt.unpolished

 

TINA
conscious.downright.grace-ridden

 

SARAH K
visible.unguarded.endearing

SHELLI
incremental.touring.debrief

 

SPENCER
worship.rogue.question

Cannonball wound ointment and ministry tension

Brian Regan has a bit about going to the doctor and being given a small handout about how to get the ailment for which he was going to the doctor.

“I know how to get it!

He exaggerates it as though he were going into the doctor with a cannonball wound and getting a pamphlet describing how to get cannonball wounds.

“I have a cannonball wound! Do you have a tube of cannonball wound ointment?”

Am I the only one who feels like they are not super-sure of what to do in an area or ministry they were once knew exactly what to do?

Ministry has me in a place right now where I am saturated with information about the culture I am reaching, but all the information is heavy on the problem and light to lacking on the solution.

My heart is a bit weighed down with a sense of confusion and burden. It is as though my mind is full of the statistics about this generation, this culture, this demographic. I have an ear to ground, and I hear far more than the local church hears, yes, but I feel like I am without  solutions to the ailments. I feel, in this, a lot of pressure built up in my heart as it fills with more and more insight to the problems and descriptions without the release of solutions and steps for change.

It would seem enough pressure builds without release
explosion is impending.
(and I’m not even sure I know what that would look like either)

I am in the doctor’s office with a wounded heart for a generation reading pamphlet after pamphlet about the generation my heart hurts for.

Something has to change, and I am always willing and ready for change, but…

what do you do when you simply do not know what changes need to be made?


Networks vs Neighborhoods: another way the Church is missing the young adult population

On many levels, the American Church is moving to the way of the “house church”, and it has a great momentum to reach many people. We are seeing many Christians learn what it might look like to be followers of Christ as they love and serve their neighborhoods. We are seeing more and more large churches OF small groups instead of churches WITH small groups.

The outreach of the church is now being put in the hands of the church as opposed to the church leaders alone. Smaller groups and house churches are turning their eyes and hearts toward their neighborhoods in order to learn what the incarnational gospel might yield in comparison to the attraction gospel that has been the primary model utilized by the American Church to this point.

While this excites me to see where the American Church is moving the gospel, I fear it STILL misses the mark in reaching a college and young adult population. The move into neighborhoods will certainly serve to reach a postmodern, post-Christian society and culture, but let’s not forget that post modernity and post-Christianity is NOT a generation.

This means while college students and young adults most often fall into the postmodern, post-Christian mindset, to reach a demographic I love and my heart breaks for, there is yet another reality to be mindful of.

College students and most young adults don’t really have neighborhoods they live in for long. This is a pretty transient period of life where they live in different homes from month to month. This is a time of life lived in semesters as opposed to years. The rest of life is lived outside the house elsewhere. Home is where the couch is!

The sense of neighborhood is lost on the college student and young adult. So a house church mentality works well if your population has a house or spends any significant time in the house they have.

Now again, I love the house church model, and I think the American Church needs to continue moving in that direction for sure, bu my question, as a college pastor, is how do you move this model for a demographic without neighborhoods?

The answer lies in what college students and young adults DO have. Networks!

Thought the idea of a neighborhood may be lost, there is a strong sense of network in this demographic. We still frequent different areas such as coffee shops, bars, campuses, and clubs. These places have become different networks each person is connected to.

When you frequent those places, you become ‘a regular’. Once I became a regular at Tupelo Coffee House, I started to recognize the other regulars. Once I began to recognize the other regulars, I began to notice them outside the coffee shop in other networks I am connected to. I recently recognized a Tupelo barista when I was walking around the monthly art walk downtown.

The whole interest of our networks is watching them overlap. “I didn’t know you came here to this coffee shop!”

In order to begin really reaching the college and young adult population, we need to move from the neighborhoods to the networks. House churches need to be in coffee shops and bars and clubs and various other networks.

In a generation that has not yet settled down into neighborhoods, you have to be a neighbor in their networks.

5 Blogs I NEVER Skip Over in Google Reader

I love my Google Reader. It is my preferred reader for all the blogs and sites I follow. Regardless of the reader you use, we all know you never really read every post by every person in your reader. For some of us, it would take days to do that. It’s just information overload at some point. When your reader has nearly 30 new posts a day, it is necessary to skim.  For me, here are the posts I NEVER skip.

1. Ragamuffin Soul – Carlos Whittaker’s blog says he  is “an artist, pastor, thinker, experience architect, and Web 2.0 junkie.” I love his blog because it is creative, inspiring, and simple to read and interact with.
2.Michael Hyatt’s Blog – Michael is the Chairman and CEO of Thomas Nelson Publishers. His blog is a crisp and clean page with great insights for leaders, writers, and bloggers.
3. Heart of Campus Ministry – I do not include this just because I am a regular contributor. The guys at HOCM truly do exemplify their title, and their love and insights are evident for any whose heart beats for the people group we call “college students”
4. Refusing to Tiptoe - Sarah is a student, an artist, and a creative. She may even be nervous I am even including her in this blog, but more people should know about her writing and thoughts and heart.
5. Jesse Peterson’s Blog – Jesse is a close friend of mine, and his blog may best be described as “misadventures of a young worship leader”. Anyone involved in leading worship in any capacity would benefit from the insights he processes here.

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What are the blogs you never skip? (this is your chance for shameless plugs)

Why Young Adults Are NOT At Your Church

The question is the same though the words may be different. The primary concern behind the question is that young adults are not attending your church, and you want to know why? Why are house churches, community churches, and church plants getting all the young adults?

Naturally, I would know all the answers to this question. At least that is what it seems people think. I do not think I know all the answers to this question because I am beginning to recognize only one answer.

If you ask this question, understand this: this current young adult generation is NOT the lazy, lethargic, and apathetic generation mine was. Currently, young adults are finding their place in The Church and in ministry. Currently, young adults have a lot of great passion and drive to be a part of The Church, but they struggle to find Churches which really want them in ministry.

Most churches want the young adult butts in the seats, but they don’t want the ideas, the creativity, the change, and the discomfort the young adults bring. So that is why:

Young adults are going to churches where they are able and allowed to have an impact. This is why they may not be at your church.

The question churches need to begin asking (if they really want young adults in their churches) is: do I want young adults to really have an impact here?

I will warn you ahead of time; if your answer is yes, you need to be prepared to make active decisions that exemplify that answer.

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Why do you agree/disagree with me?

Ministry MUST Change

I came across this video about a month ago, and then my wife passed along to me once more today. When I watch this video, I cannot help but ask myself what I ask you:

KNOWING THESE THINGS… How will you change the way you do ministry? Will you change the way you do ministry?