I was washing dishes, and Bryleigh came into the kitchen saying, “I’m putting on make up, Dadda, to be pretty.” I asked, “What?” in that way fathers do when they know exactly what they said.
“I’m still putting on make up. I’m not pretty yet, Dadda.”
There are moments as a father, which are weightier than others, and you have to be present enough to catch. This is one of those moments.
I realize my daughter has dug into her mother’s makeup bag because it is fun to do what mom does, but her statement struck my heart in a way I would not pass over. This was an opportunity.
“You do not need makeup to be pretty, Bryleigh. You are so pretty.”
That was not hard to say nor did it take but a few moments of being present enough to seize. My 2 year old playfully saying, “I’m still putting on make up. I’m not pretty yet, Dadda” was an opportunity to be a Dad before there is an emotional belief behind that statement.
I am not against my daughter putting on make up (later), but I am vehemently against my daughter ever believing she needs makeup to be pretty.